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Dear
Chuck,
It
seems like all my husband thinks about is sex. Is he some sort of
pervert or is he normal?
Chuck's
Response
Gary
Smalley got we men into trouble with one of his books where he said
that men think about sex every 50 seconds. Now that’s ridiculous.
I have no idea where he got that figure. I know it’s wrong from my
own personal experience. I’ve gone for a minute and a half without
thinking about sex, so he’s way off base on this. Barb and I were
doing one of our marriage seminars one time, and we didn't have much
time left. Barb wanted to finish a thought so she said "In a
minute, Chuck will tell you everything he knows about sex." The
audience of course broke up. After things were back to order I
corrected Barb. I said "it will take me at least TWO minutes to
tell them everything I know about sex." This will come as a
shock to you, but the sexual relationship a man has with his wife is
the most fun thing he does, and is his greatest need. GREATEST need!
He's not some kind of animal. God gave him this intense desire and
interest to make sure the human race survives, and also to give a
married couple the highest ecstasy this life can offer.
- After
things were back to order I corrected Barb. I said "it will
take me at least TWO minutes to tell them everything I know
about sex." This will come as a shock to you, but the
sexual relationship a man has with his wife is the most fun
thing he does, and is his greatest need. GREATEST need! He's not
some kind of animal. God gave him this intense desire and
interest to make sure the human race survives, and also to give
a married couple the highest ecstasy this life can offer.
Sex
was GOD'S idea. And He thought long and hard about whether to give
Adam or Eve the primary responsibility for this part of marriage. He
finally chose Adam because in His foreknowledge He knew that if He
trusted Eve with this important work, she never would have thought
about it! The Bible would only have one book in it, because the
history of mankind would have been written about ABRAHAM, ISSAC,
JACcccob, and poof. The end of the human race would have come
quickly, because Eve had so many other things to think about. On the
other hand Adam was focused and one-dimensional and expressed his
eagerness to take care of this critical part of God's plan for
mankind, and God in his foreknowledge knew he would do a good job.
Therefore ladies, when your husband wants to go to bed a little
early once in awhile, please know that this is NOT for himself. It's
for the DESTINY of MANKIND the PRESERVATION of the RACE!! What a
noble and soul-stirring burden for man to carry. Your husband is no
doubt interested in being in strict obedience to his God as he
carries out God's mandate to preserve the human race from going down
the drain because of the woman being so busy.
Are
you impressed yet? I didn’t think so. Just take my word for it.
Your husband is absolutely normal. The problem comes within the
framework of a monogamous marriage where the man is constantly
thinking about physical sex. On the other hand, most women rarely
think about physical sex, except as the frosting on the cake of a
loving, caring marriage relationship. While the first thoughts of a
man are about sex, the first thoughts of a woman are usually about
the relationship, and how she is being treated in other areas of her
marriage. Someone has said men make love to FEEL good and women make
love WHEN they feel good. That means the whole relationship has to
be going well before the woman feels like going to bed with her
husband. So ladies….he is not some sort of BEAST! He is just
trying to keep the human race from going down the drain. A very
noble and inspiring God-given job. I KNOW you women are impressed
now that I have explained it. Aren’t you?
- Chuck
Snyder
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