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Dear
Chuck
I love Jesus and my husband very much, but I have
a problem and I feel as if I'm the only woman alive who has this
kind of problem. I still feel attracted to other men. Why is that? I
love my husband. I know God put us together and I value our
marriage. I thought that only men have this problem. What is the
right mental attitude toward this? Am I abnormal? Women don't talk
about these things. If someone is humble enough to admit to
something like this, there is the possibility of backbiting and
slander. I would appreciate any help with this embarrassing problem.
Chuck's
Response
Thanks
for your note about being attracted to other men. I think there is a
difference between being attracted physically by the way they look
or smile or act, and wanting to spend time or flirt with them. Men
and women are designed to be attracted to each other physically. If
your heart is saying that you wish you could be married to the men
you meet, then maybe you have a problem ... but just to be attracted
to them and think they are handsome is not sin in the least. It's
what is happening in your mind. Just appreciate what you see, and
then avert your eyes and think about something else so you won't be
tempted to go further. I don't think you are all that strange at
all. I appreciate your trust. Let me know if you want to talk
further.
Chuck
Snyder
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