My Mother-In-Law Calls Too Much

 by Chuck Snyder
 co-chaplain for the Seattle Mariners


Dear Chuck
How do I approach my wife about her mother calling too much? She tries to impose in on our life too much. What are your thoughts on this matter? My wife gets defensive when I bring it up. She is aware of it though. But, she won't do anything about it.

Chuck's Response
Thanks for the note about your wife's mother calling her too much. I think it is your wife's place to decide if her Mom is calling too much. If I had to guess, I would assume this is your feeling and not hers.

One of the greatest needs a woman has is relationships, whereas you and I as men can find our self-esteem in what we do for a living what we accomplish. If I were you, I would encourage her to talk with her Mom or anyone else as much as she wants. You will never meet all of her relationship needs, and I would suggest you not discourage her from getting some of her needs met by her friends and family.

If your wife knows of your disapproval, take her out on a dinner date and ask her forgiveness and tell her how much she means to you. I'd love to send you a copy of my latest book called The Way to a Woman's Heart. I think it might give you some insights into the strange world of women. It would come as my gift. I would need a mailing address, P.O. box, business address whichever you would feel most comfortable with. Thanks for writing.

Chuck Snyder



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